Weddings can be really expensive; even us older guys know this. Most of the weddings I know of these days end up costing more than $10,000, and even if the newly married couple gets a lot of monetary gifts, they’re often still paying out of pocket expenses months after they’ve gotten married, if they didn’t have to pay the whole thing up front.

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I was lucky. I got married at age 37 and my wife had been married before, so we didn’t have to pony up a lot of money. Actually, we made a profit because we were able to keep our costs down drastically.

We didn’t follow everything listed below to the letter, but we did follow 5 of these. These tips might give you ideas on how to proceed with your wedding without having to take out a bank loan.

1. Have your photographer only take pictures during the wedding ceremony and at the church

If you hire a photographer for the day, you pay for the day. If you hire for only one location, that can help keep the costs down because the photographer can plan something else for the day. There will be plenty of people at the reception taking pictures, and all of them will be willing to give you copies for free. Some photographers won’t go for this option, but it can’t hurt to ask.

We got lucky because one of my best friends was a photographer. He took our pictures as a wedding gift; if you can find someone you know well to do that for you then you’ll definitely save a lot of money.

2. Don’t rent a limousine.

Don’t ride around in the Pinto either (do they still make Pinto’s?). A nice full sized sedan, or even a roomy SUV, is fine as the source of your wedding transportation for the day. Sure, you lose a little bit of glamour, but is it worth hundreds of dollars to be driven a few miles to your locations and pay for a driver standing around doing nothing?

My new wife and I drove ourselves to where the reception was being held, so this isn’t an expense we had to deal with. You might wonder what we did about the wedding party. I’ll mention that one in #5.

3. Get married wherever you’re having your reception.

You’ll know the room is big enough, you only have to pay for one venue, no one has to travel anywhere so you cut down on travel costs, and you can start the wedding reception immediately after the nuptials; this is a win-win.

We didn’t do this one either. We ended up having our wedding at the clubhouse of an apartment complex where one of my wife’s friends lived. She was able to get the space for free, and it was large enough for everyone who came to the wedding. Why turn down free?

4. Decorate the church and reception hall yourself.

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Your friend will love helping you decorate, and you save on the costs of having someone else do it. Really, how much money do you want to spend for someone to put a runner down from the front door to the front of the church anyway? Sure, it takes some time to do, but it also might help relieve some of the anxiety of getting married by having something tangible to do.

This is what my wife and her friends did. Because she knows a lot about designing at a low price, she didn’t spend an arm and a leg setting up the places where we had our wedding ceremony and reception, and she thoroughly enjoyed it. Her friends used this as the bachelorette party in a way, because my wife wouldn’t allow them to throw her a traditional shindig.

5. Have a smaller wedding party.

You’d probably like to have your bridesmaid and all your friends with you on your special day, but it’s going to cost you a lot of money for all those people. You have to buy flowers for each of them, the special wedding gift you give them for helping you and being a part of your wedding party, and other small expenses you may not have thought about.

You want to know how big our wedding party was? Two people! The best man, which was my dad, and the maid of honor; that’s it. No one felt left out because they weren’t a part of the party, we only had to buy two gifts, and because it was just the 4 of us and a very short ride to where the reception was, Dad drove over with Mom and my wife’s friend rode with her daughter.

6. Have the rehearsal dinner at someone’s house instead of taking all those people out to a restaurant.

This will save money and can be a more intimate event at the same time. Think about it; a big pot of spaghetti and meatballs with some buttered bread and maybe a cake from your favorite bakery for even a large wedding party will save you a lot of money. Of course you can have other foods as well, as I’ll touch upon at #8.

We didn’t do this because, since we only had a wedding party of 2, my wife’s rehearsal dinner was hanging with her friends decorating the place where we got married, and I spent the time alone at home… I’m so antisocial. 🙂

7. Do your wedding day makeup yourself.

The bride wants to look beautiful on the wedding day. Even though a professional will do a great job, most women already know the way they want to wear their makeup. If you as the bride wants a few extra touches, ask one of your friends to help you out.

Actually, go ahead and invite a few of your friends; the more people you have around, the less anxiety you’ll have while getting ready for the wedding. This is what my wife did, and she said it was relaxing and fun.

8. Make the wedding food yourself or hire friends to do it for you.

Remember that spaghetti and meatballs I mentioned above for the reception? If you have someone you know cooking the food and that’s what you want, you can still go that route, and it’ll cost you a lot less money putting that type of meal together.

What if that’s not what you want? My wife knew a caterer who gave us a drastically low price for a wedding meal of turkey, mashed potatoes, cornbread dressing, yams and peas, and her friends helped bring everything to the reception so he didn’t have to worry about paying someone to help him. It always pays to know someone. 😉

Using these wedding tips will save you significant amounts of money, and your day will still be special. Even if you only do a couple of these, or use these tips to come up with your own ideas, any way you can cut down the costs of your wedding will work out in the long run.

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Many times, when people are looking for ways to reduce their debt, they go looking for someone else to help them with their problems. The truth of the matter is that every person is capable of figuring their way out of debt if they have a job and are bringing in some kind of money. It may not be easy but it’s better to have some background knowledge to help you move forward.

Below are some tips to employ to help you gradually, or quickly, work your way out of debt.

1. Write down all your debts.

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This is always the first step, because, as Dr. Phil might say, you can’t address what you won’t acknowledge. Take one month’s worth of bills and write down what each is, as well as the amount you’re expected to pay. For credit cards, write down the annual percentage rate. Also, write down how much you estimate you spend on things such as food, gas, entertainment, etc.

2. Calculate your monthly net income.

Net income means how much you actually bring home, or have deposited into the bank. Hopefully, it’s the same amount every pay period; if not, then it’s going to be a monthly estimate. There’s a few ways of doing this. One, if it’s the same amount, multiply that by either 52 if you get paid weekly, 26 if you get paid bi-weekly, or 12 if you get paid monthly.

After you’ve done the first two things, see what the difference is between what you’re bringing home and what your monthly bills come to. Hopefully, you’re on the positive side as far as income goes. If you’re close either way, there’s still hope. If you’re in the ditch, and your expenses outweigh your income, you’re in trouble, but there’s still hope for you down the road.

3. Take a look at the bills you’re paying to see what may be there that you either don’t really need, or can reduce.

For instance, if you have cable and have all the premium channels, you could probably get rid of some of those to reduce your bill. Maybe with your cell phone you can reduce the amount of data you have or remove something else fancy that you might be paying for. These are luxuries, not necessities, and you might miss them, but your wallet will thank you.

Most people find that if they really take a good look at things like this, they can save anywhere from $100 to $300 a month, depending on how much they were spoiling themselves. There might also be workarounds to saving money without losing much on your fun, such as going on Netflix and viewing their programming more often than watching movies and shows on TV.

4. Take a better look at expenses that aren’t monthly bills.

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Looking at how you travel to and from work might be a nice starting point in saving a bit of money. If you drive a relatively short distance to work, then it doesn’t make sense to change your driving patterns. However, if you’re driving at least 20 to 25 minutes to work each way, taking the bus will end up costing you less money than driving, although you lose convenience.

Reducing your entertainment budget might be a big deal, especially if you’re eating out twice a week, or every day for lunch. It’s almost better to increase your food bill a little bit to get things so you can take a lunch with you, and maybe eat out once every two weeks, at a less expensive restaurant, instead of weekly. If you’re really in trouble, extra spending to make yourself feel better will only hurt you long term.

These are only examples of the types of things you might want to look at. Since every person lives differently, only you can look at what you’re spending your money on that you might be able to alter.

5. Set up a payment plan; yes, the dreaded “budget” word.

You’re partially there because you’ve listed all your debts because of #1 above. If you have one and know how to use it, list everything in a spreadsheet program because this will make it easy to track, or at least set everything up. Here’s what you want to do.

Figure out which bills are due and when. Base it off either your one week or two week payment schedule; if you get paid once a month, you can skip this part. Set up a schedule where you know when you’ll pay which bills for at least six months.

You’re probably wondering why. Earlier we figured out what your net income was for 26 weeks. Most people budget for twice a month payments, which means you actually get two extra weeks of payments a year. So, what you’ll find is that, if you extend your budget for six months, you’ll gain a pay period, and thus earn yourself a little benefit and boost which you’d have never known about if you hadn’t budgeted. This will allow you to move your payments around based on when they’re due; it’s an interesting way to end up paying yourself. 🙂

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Something else you’ll do with your payment plan concerns your credit card payments. There are three schools of thought on this one.

The first says to tackle the card with the highest interest rate first. The second says to go after the cards with the highest balances first. The third says to go after the cards with the lowest balances first. Let’s take a look at each of these.

The cards with the highest interest rates add more to your balances on average than other cards. Going after these balances saves money because it saves on the amount of interest you’re getting charged for.

The cards with the highest balances are the ones that make you feel beaten up and overwhelmed. If you go after these balances first, as you see them coming down your stress level will decrease.

My favorite is going after cards with low balances first. The principle behind this is that everyone works best when they can see successes. The quicker you can pay off a balance, the better you’ll feel, and you’ll be ready to tackle the next card.

The idea behind all three of these ideas is that, whichever one you select, you pay more than the minimum balance, at least 50% more if you can afford it, and stop using all of your cards except possibly one; we’ll come back to that concept. Then, when you pay off the low balance card, you take that payment and apply it to the next lowest card, and so forth.

If you have a low balance with a high interest rate, this is a win-win. If your highest balance is also your highest interest rate, you’re heading towards trouble quicker, and you just might have to go after that one first, bringing the balance down to a safer level before going after one of your other cards.

Why do I recommend you keep one card going? If you can use one of your credit cards for small purchases, what you’ll have to pay the next month is relatively low compared to having to pay cash for everything. You don’t use it for everything in a month, just a couple of things. If you put gas in your car weekly, maybe throw one of those weeks onto your credit card. Maybe one week in the month use your credit card for the purchases.

This is extreme, but if you have the space on the card it might help for a quick fix, though we’re weaning you away from credit cards eventually. Also, it helps to show credit reporting companies that you’re consistent in paying an open balance. I’m not sure why they find this more important than just paying everything off and not carrying any credit; go figure.

6. Time to make some phone calls.

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I’m not going to recommend that everyone cut up all of their credit cards unless they’re in serious trouble. If you’ve been keeping current on all of your payments while getting deeper into debt, you at least have a chance to help yourself out.

Call all of your big credit card companies (Visa, Mastercard, Discover) and ask for a rate reduction. If you’ve kept up on payments, most of them will offer you a reduction, which can save you a lot of money in fees, and in some ways immediately reduce your payment amount.

Next, if you need a quick infusion of cash and have a car payment, call them and ask if you can delay payment for one month. Most auto loan companies will give owners upwards of 10 times during the life of a loan where they can delay payment a month, though you will pay a very small fee and your loan will be extended a month for each delay. Still, it’s a nice way to get a one month jump on some funds that might help you get over, or caught up, on some delinquencies.

7. Get a part time job.

I know this one everyone hates. The thing is that there’s only so much one can hope to save while trying to cut expenses, and a nice part time job might add at least $200 to your cash flow during the month, often much more. Of course if you work a full time job with lots of overtime this might be hard to do, but for most people, that’s not a concern.

There are different kinds of part time jobs. If you can write, you might be able to find some freelance writing work that could earn you some nice pay and you won’t even have to leave the house. Maybe you can find something that fits a particular skill you have.

In Loral Langemeyer’s book The Millionaire Maker, she often makes that a part of her recommendations for clients who work with her, and many of them have found that it turns into a better career than the one they’d been doing, makes more money, and they enjoy it more.

The one thing you have to watch out for is if you live in a state that has a yearly state tax. If this is the case you might have to set things up where a certain amount if taken from your pay every pay period instead of relying on a percentage being taken out ahead of time. What often happens is you don’t make enough money during the week for anything to be taken out, and you’ll end up being shocked at tax time when you find out that you actually owe a big lump sum as opposed to getting anything back depending on how much you made.

8. Plan your shopping before you leave home.

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Studies have shown that people who go out to buy exactly what they want spend less money because they’re less susceptible to impulse buying. It’s also one of the reasons why it’s always recommended that you eat before you go to the grocery store.

This can work wonders for your budget, especially if you also plan where you’re going based on your knowledge of how much things cost and how far you have to go. I tend to have a running list that’s kept in the kitchen and twice a week know exactly where to go to maximize my dollars.

9. Create a money jar for spare change and dollars.

This sounds crazy on the surface but it works wonders. Almost every personal finance book or program you come across will tell you to not only pay yourself before paying anyone or anything else, but to put 10% away. The reality is that not everyone has the means to pop 10% of their income away all the time; it’s just not realistic.

What is realistic is taking your change and tossing it into a jar or some other kind of container that you won’t be compelled to dip into all the time. I keep three containers on hand.

One I put the majority of change I bring home into. Another one I put a 4th of the change I brought home into. The final one is where I put a few extraneous dollar bills that I pushed into my pocket instead of put back into my wallet, which I do on a constant basis.

You’ll be amazed at how fast the containers you don’t touch all that often will accumulate money, and it often comes in handy when you most need some additional funds, or if you want to use it for a fun night out here and there. I tend to roll up coins from the container I put the most change into, and I have those rolls in a couple of different places in the house. It’s nice having a little bit of emergency money laying around.

10. Buy consumables in bulk.

Every area has some kind of major discount store; in my area we have two. There are things we’re all going to use consistently, such as toilet paper, soap, paper cups, etc. If you have a place to store items like this you can save big money by buying things like this in bulk.

I have saved as much as 50% off the cost of these types of products, and that’s without using coupons, which they accept. These stores also sell gasoline, usually at a reduction of between 5 and 10 cents off the cost of gas when compared to everyone else, which is a pretty good deal.

There are a lot of other tips I could have given but this article is long enough. Looking at these tips will help to get you out of debt, though it’s not an easy process and could take awhile.

Alleviating worries of whether or not you will ever be able to overcome your debt will be a big benefit to you once you see what you’re up against, and you’ll love the feeling of independence that you’ll end up giving yourself. Once you see yourself progressing, you’ll feel happier and have a better sense of calm and accomplishment. Good luck!

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Every once in a while, one member of a married couple runs up a lot more debt than the other, sometimes even while just living together. This begs the question as to whether, in extreme circumstances, couples should define whether one or the other should get financial help or if they should go into it together.

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There are times when couples don’t have a choice. If they purchased a home with both names on it, then both will always be responsible. If taxes were filed as a married couple both parties are responsible. In this day and age co-signing a car loan or any other type of loan means both parties are responsible as well.

Credit card debt used to be a different story. Back then, unless one party passed away, the husband or wife wasn’t responsible for their spouses debt. If the debtor got sued and had wages garnisheed, it only affected the person whose name is on the account.

Unfortunately that’s changed. When it comes to debt owed after a death, now it’s the full estate that’s responsible for any remaining debt and not just the person who accrued it. The only time that changes is if one of the spouses had an incorporated business, in which case the spouse isn’t responsible for any of it.

Should couples combine their debt load? Absolutely, for these two reasons.

One, if you hope to remain a couple it’s probably the thing to do because it could cause resentment by one or the other. Imagine getting married to someone only to learn afterwards that they’re over $20,000 in debt. Being married is hard enough without having been slapped in the face with that kind of situation.

Two, it helps because both parties in the relationship could get one blanket deal that could end up saving them money while getting the debts of both people paid off. This obviously works better if it’s a married couple, but combining both incomes and the load of debt would definitely be easier to overcome with some good budgeting assistance.

It’s also easier to get a loan from the bank if the household income is combined, as the higher the income the easier it is to get a loan of some type, even if it’s just a line of credit. This also works for getting credit cards, since the question isn’t “how much do you make” but “what is the annual household income”?

Before getting married discussing the debts each person has is an imperative step. All debts should be out in the open before getting married because one or the other could find out that their relationship is a sham and based on financial needs, and that will just add a layer of complication that no one needs to deal with.

I know of one couple where both parties decided to live together. The woman in the relationship revealed a long list of debts she’d been afraid to own up to. Luckily, her partner was very savvy when it came to budgeting and finances. He helped her figure out exactly where she was, how they could proceed to get her caught up, and was also able to figure out how he could help her pay off some of her debt sooner by using a portion of his own income. Within 18 months it was all taken care of, and they concentrated on their future instead of their past.

In the end, couples have to trust either other with their finances in order to try to move forward smoothly. It always works better when people come from a position of honesty, and it could result in figuring out how to solve problems together. That’s what being a long term couple is all about.

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